Overcoming OVerwhelm and over-availability syndrome
A Gentle Intervention for Women Who Are Tired of Holding It All Together – and Want to Cultivate More Poise, Presence, and Peace in Business and Life
Overcoming OVerwhelm and
over-availability syndrome
A Gentle Intervention for Women Who Are Tired of Holding It All Together – and Want to Cultivate More Poise, Presence, and Peace in Business and Life
You’ve done everything right. So why do you still feel like you’re barely holding on?
You’ve built something good.
A business. A family. A life that others admire.
But behind the steady smile and the color-coded calendar, there’s a quiet ache:
You’re overextended.
And you’re not sure how much longer you can keep going like this.
If you’re honest, you’ve mastered the art of functioning while tired.
You know how to be kind when you’re running on empty.
You know how to deliver results—even when your soul feels... distant.
And maybe you’ve started to wonder:
“Is this just how it is now?”
You’re not crazy. And you’re definitely not alone.
What you’re experiencing has a name.
I call it Overwhelm and Over-Availability Syndrome.
It’s what happens when you’ve made yourself so accessible to everyone else…
that you’ve quietly become unavailable to yourself.
And over time, the cost isn’t just exhaustion.
It’s the slow erosion of presence, poise, and peace—the very things you long for most.
But you can get them back.
You just have to stop doing what strong women are so good at:
Pushing through.
A Letter to the Woman Who’s Tired of Pushing
Overcoming Overwhelm and Over-Availability Syndrome is a short, powerful letter I originally wrote to my client, Morgan. But at her encouragement, I’ve published it for all women like her. It’s for a woman like you—a driven, kind, capable woman who quietly feels like she’s sinking.
In it, you’ll discover:
Why rest is not weakness—but leadership
How to release the guilt around “doing less”
How to trade the Messiah Complex for real, joyful service
How to set boundaries that don’t feel like walls
Why presence is the most magnetic force you carry—and how to reclaim it
💬 “This isn’t just a read. It’s a reckoning. And it helped me remember who I am.”
You're not Lazy.
You're Over-Extended.
Let me be clear:
You’re not stuck because you lack motivation.
You’re stuck because you’ve been too responsible, too available, and too silent for too long.
You’ve taught the world that you’re always reachable.
And the world has responded by reaching.
So if you’re craving a reset—not just for your calendar, but for your soul—you’re in the right place.
What Women Are Saying
“Honestly, everything in your life feels better after working with Vaughn.”
— Jenessa M., Frisco Body Contouring
“I felt so overwhelmed, like if I didn’t do everything, that everything would fall apart. Vaughn taught me the importance of trust and rest. I’m doing more of that now - and nothing is falling apart!”
— Morgan S., Revival of Midland
“I used to get in my head and in my own way a lot. Vaughn helped me put a stop to that!”
— AMY F., YOU GO WE GO HEALTH
What Women Are Saying
“Honestly, everything in your life feels better after working with Vaughn.”
— Jenessa M., Frisco Body Contouring
“I felt so overwhelmed, like if I didn’t do everything, that everything would fall apart. Vaughn taught me the importance of trust and rest. I’m doing more of that now - and nothing is falling apart!”
— Morgan S., Revival of Midland
“I used to get in my head and in my own way a lot. Vaughn helped me put a stop to that!”
— AMY F., YOU GO WE GO HEALTH
Ready for Real Change? Let's Talk.
If the booklet resonates, but you’re ready for something more personal, I offer 1:1 coaching for women like you—women who are thriving on the outside, but quietly wondering:
"Is this pace sustainable?”
"Why does rest feel like guilt?”
"When do I get to just be...me?”
We’ll work together to:
✅ Untangle the mental loops that keep you saying yes out of guilt
✅ Reset your rhythms so your life feels like your own again
✅ Build sustainable structures of renewal
✅ Lead your business from a place of overflow, not depletion
No formulas. No fluff.
Just real, honest coaching—rooted in faith, strategy, and decades of experience.
Want to Equip Your Whole Team? Bring Me In to Speak
Whether it’s a leadership retreat, women’s event, or company offsite, I speak to high-capacity teams and communities about:
Overcoming burnout without losing your ambition
Restoring identity and clarity under pressure
Leading with grace, not just grit
You’ll get a mix of mindset shifts, soulful storytelling, and practical tools that leave people saying:
“Finally—something that honors the weight I carry, and shows me how to carry it well.”
About Me — and Why This Is For You
I’m Vaughn Kohler—a coach, consultant, former pastor, grateful husband, and proud father of five.
These days, I spend most of my time working with entrepreneurs who want to build something great without burning themselves out in the process. That includes both men and women. But over the past few years, something shifted.
I found myself having deeper and more frequent conversations with women leading medspas, clinics, and aesthetic businesses—women who are not only running companies, but also raising families, caring for patients, holding marriages together, and trying to stay grounded in a world that constantly pulls at them.
It felt less like coaching and more like translating exhaustion into clarity. Like reminding brilliant, high-capacity women that they don’t have to disappear inside their own success.
And the truth is, this message lives in my bones.
I’m married to a functional medicine doctor who’s also a wife and a mother. I see—daily—what it takes to hold all of that together. I watch her navigate the tension between calling and capacity, brilliance and burnout, grit and grace.
I’m also a proud #GirlDad x 4 (plus one awesome son), which means I’ve been deeply formed by the beauty, strength, and sensitivity of women. And I’ve learned to listen closely.
So while I work with a wide range of entrepreneurs, this message is especially for women—for those who lead, who love, and who sometimes feel like they’re doing both with too little left in the tank.
you Don't have to stay overwhelmed
You can step out of the swirl.
You can reset your rhythms.
You can feel like you again.
And it starts here ➔